a public service announcement:

do not tell pregnant women how big they look.

ever.

Okay so Yosi, the guys, and I were at a fiesta last night. It was fine.

Except all these women kept commenting on how big I am. 

This makes me cranky. You know what? Yes, I am big. BECAUSE I'M GROWING A HUMAN BEING.

A human that does not even belong to me. 

Pretty rad, huh? 

It's not even the surrogacy thing. I got this with my guys too, and it just baffles me every single time. What leaves me even more befuddled is that a whopping majority of these comments come from women.

Rarely will you find a man who comments negatively on a woman's size - pregnant or not - directly to her face. Why? Because it's rude. That's why. 

But for some odd reason, certain women seem to think it's completely fine to tell a pregnant woman how ginormous she has gotten. 

If this is you, please realize that it's not okay. She knows. Trust me, she knows that there is a 5 pound child occupying her entire abdominal cavity. She knows that every second of the day when she moves slower than usual. She knows it when she has to take a nap instead of go to the park, simply because the act of growing that child can be completely exhausting. She knows it when she's up for the fourth time that night to empty her teeny tiny bladder. She knows it when she's trying hard to put together a train puzzle on the floor and eventually has to look on from the couch because that baby has curled up in her ribs so high that the bones feel like they might actually snap. She knows when she goes to get dressed and... I won't even go there. 

But you know what? She doesn't mind. She gets to feel that baby rolling around and hiccuping. When she tosses and turns at night, hoping to find a comfortable way to sleep, she thinks about what wonderful things this new life will accomplish during their own time on earth. She knows that because of her sacrifice, a family will grow, and more love will come to exist in this world. 

Literally. Love that did not even exist before, will now be a part of the universe. Think about that for a second. Brand new love.

So yes, pregnant women get big. But we do not need your comments on the matter. Especially those comments designed to do nothing other than fill the air. The comments that do nothing to lift us up, but rather could only be intended to make us feel less anything less than remarkable. Because that is honestly what we are. We are over here, growing love, and all you can think to comment on is how big we look? 

Well, I think that you'd be better off saying nothing at all. 

Carmen